How to choose a lover
By lover, I don’t mean merely an intimate partner or a sexual dalliance.
By lover, I mean a person who ravishes your entire being - mind, body, heart and soul.
Author: Lisa Vallejos, PhD
By lover, I mean the person who takes your breath away and breathes life into your dreams. By lover, I mean the person whose body fits yours like a glove and in whose eyes you see eternity. By lover, I mean the person who captures your attention and captivates your being.
You see, it is easy to choose a physical lover, there’s an app for that. You can swipe your way to a booked social calendar and still live with an empty heart. Many view the quest for love as a numbers game… the more exposures you have to potential partners, the better your chances. While I see the rationale behind that, I believe that is far too simple.
To choose a lover is not a numbers game. It is birthed from a deep and raw place within the soul, a place where many of us rarely explore within ourselves. That is why we choose our lovers based on surface characteristics and miss the soulful connection our hearts are craving.
To choose such a lover requires us to go within and explore the deepest parts of ourselves. We must discover who we were before life told us who we should be. One must shine a light into the darkness, knowing that facing the demons that reside there is vital to self-discovery. One must be willing to touch the places that ache, the longing within and the call of the heart. One must be willing to be undone, to feel lost and to let go.
Choosing this type of lover is not like going to a buffet where you try a little of this and that until you find what pleases your palate and satiates your hunger. You will only find the soulful lover you seek when you have been willing to go through your own process of discovery.
To choose a lover, you must first choose yourself.
You choose to allow the destruction of enlightenment to have its way with your life. You choose to remain steadfast in your commitment to your highest good. You choose to retain the hope that the universe will bring everything you need to you at the exact right time.
To choose a lover, you must know what you are seeking and trust that, as Rumi stated, “what you seek is seeking you.” When you are deeply living from a place of authentic truth, you will find those who are doing the same. From that space, you will no longer be standing in a buffet line, tasting the options but will be following your bliss to the place you most desire and filling your plate with that which fulfills, sustains and enriches your being.
This except is taken from http://www.elephantjournal.com/2015/11/how-to-choose-a-lover/ and https://sacreddreamsinspiration.wordpress.com/2016/04/12/how-to-choose-a-lover/